SEX!!!

So sometimes I like to give unwanted sex advice, and this is one of those times.

I was taking a shower just a few minutes ago, when that song… “A Kiss in the Moonlight?”… something like that - by Lady Antebellum came on the radio. One of the lines to that song says “I don’t wanna rush this/let’s just take it slow.”

I want to address this idea of “taking it slow.”

Many people claim that a relationship is only good and will only last if the couple decides to take it slow, i.e., if they wait before having sex.

This is a myth.

I will admit, yes, for some couples it’s a good idea to wait. Sometimes it’s good to wait for a long time. But it’s not a hard fact that you should wait before becoming sexually active with your significant other. Here is why.

1. If sex is all the person you’re interested in is after, waiting to have sex with them will only make them abandoning you more painful. The more time you wait, the more you grow attached to them, which makes the downfall worse. If you have sex with them right away and then watch them walk away immediately after, the sting is sharp but momentary. You will move on more easily.
2. Just because you give it up early does not mean that you are “easy.” What the fuck does “easy” even mean, anyway? So you have sex pretty willingly. So what. I may not be difficult to get into bed, but I sure as hell don’t let down my walls quickly. And isn’t that what means the most - when you let someone into your heart and mind?
3. If the person you’re interested is not sexually compatible with you, you know to walk away now. Bad kissers are such a turn-off. I kiss and sometimes fuck a guy before I date him because I know that if we’re not compatible in that way, then it won’t work out in the long run.
4. If the other person is worth it, they will stick around even after you’ve given them your body.

Here is my supporting evidence:

• One of my boyfriends and I started having sex with each other before we started dating. He thought it might be a good idea to take it to a more serious level, and asked me out. The relationship ended soon after - he really only wanted sex. I wasn’t that hurt. I was angry, but I moved on fairly quickly.
• In my last relationship, I waited to have sex with my boyfriend. I waited two whole months for the bastard. He broke up with me a few weeks later. I was devastated.
• My current boyfriend and I started having sex before we were officially dating. I decided that he was a keeper. This is the best relationship I’ve had to date, and I know that he wants me for more than just my body.

Some people should wait. But I think all of you should know that the other option isn’t a bad one.

Rant over.